Is it ok to ask without being racist?

It’s the morning after and everyone is talking about the ‘bombshell interview’ exposing the secrets of some dark underbelly of racism in our monarchy. I can’t help but feel some people misunderstand racism and how we can help each other.

Ok, first let me be clear, I don’t have the answer to expel racism from our lives but I do think we need to talk about it.

I’m a social media junky and make no apologies. But what I couldn’t help find amazing this morning was the outrage to Meghan’s third-hand revelation that there were concerns over the colour of the baby. People were losing their minds comparing it to being asked if a baby might look more Mediterranean or have more auburn hair. There are similarities but it’s not the same. More importantly, it’s not racist either to ask the question, but and it’s big but, context is everything.

Seek first to understand before being understood — Stephen Covey.

When I was pregnant a few years back I was also asked the same questions like do you think your baby will look white or more Asian looking? Do you have a preference? Are you worried? I don’t believe I’m alone either especially those in interracial relationships. It’s the most obvious question up therewith is the baby going to healthy, boy or girl, who will it look most like, will he/she have my nose/eyes and baby names.

Let me go back to the concerns though. If you are having a child especially if it is of…